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Entering Year 10 with Stage 4 OvCa

I look like any healthy 44-year-old gal. Maybe a little younger when I put in some effort, as I never had children. From the outside, you'd never know. I am unbelievably blessed with an amazing husband--if everyone had a partner like this the world would be such a place. Not perfect, he says, but oh so very good and always wanting my life to be good--and good it is! Come a little closer, though, and you'll see that something has definitely shaped my life. The C-word.

I had my third recurrence in 2020. Uhuh--like the year needed even more to recommend it, right? Well, it had to come eventually. The last time was 2018. This time, a dawning realization in me finally bore out in the diagnostic criteria after four months of my suspecting. Much to my surprise, I was offered radiation therapy instead of going straight to chemo. Kind of a stop-gap measure, but one which I embraced. Carbo-taxol a third time (although it works for me still!) wasn't so appealing. Abdominal radiation sounded better. Hey--I'm trying to grow my hair, here. Radiation sounded like a breeze compared with chemo; not as slick as cyber-knife treatment, maybe, but the doctors assumed the one enlarged and growing aorto-caval lymph node wasn't alone. Plus, I had some additional red flags: early satiety, I looked increasingly to be in the third trimester of pregnancy, and can-we-find-a-stronger-word-for-this constipation. Bring on the rays, right? Ahem. It's still not great.

Well, that was October, and here I am ,with a much better CA-125 back down as low as it ever was during chemo and a node shrunk to about half the size but not gone altogether. My waist-line has returned, at least for a little while though I'm not back to my usual weight and shape. That part is harder to guage right now, what with a pandemic Christmas and all. My energy is... go-oood... if I think I can remember what my energy is supposed to be like after all this. 

Amazingly, I no longer struggle with the feeling that impending death means I shouldn't start anything new. Once you head into ten years of impending death, the idea starts to seem a little far-fetched. You get used to it, like anything else, and so small knitting projects become sweaters, a one-off book-group becomes a years-long study circle, and you start to make budgets and plans again for things that span one, two, even up to five years. A future post-mortgage? Maybe.

So... After radiation treatment, I decided I wanted a new house--a bungalow. My bones keep breaking and they keep having to operate to pin me back together. Plus, right?-- that fatigue factor, and a three-story home isn't so peachy. Incredibly, the housing market has been flourishing in our city during the pandemic, and we sold this place in a pinch and managed to find a lovely new bungalow with all the wish list checked off. Lots of space, light, new-ish, west-facing fenced yard in a lovely neighbourhood, etc. We move in March!

ALSO, I decided to get back to my ethics advising work for government, and I expect to start part-time work very soon. Actually, I had reached out in August and it's finally culminating into something now. This is big, as I stopped working five years ago.

ALSO, I have agreed to sit on not just one clinical research team as a patient partner, but to sit on another and to help with the review of translational research applications for funding through Ovarian Cancer Canada. I provide some input as a patient living with the disease to researchers in the planning and evaluation stages of clinical trials and other research. This won't help me, very likely, it's for future ov ca patients, but who knows.

Rolling with it. I'm still rolling with it. Ten years with stage four serous epithelial ovarian cancer. I toggle a bit between denial, wishful thinking, and debilitating anxiety, but I don't think I'm letting it get me down.

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Gina, Sterling sent you a prayer.
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Every time I think of you, you post! A friend went on a yoga retreat and I thought of you. I’m happy you have a good husband. You have such a good attitude and the last 4 years of your posts seem different than previous posts, like you found some kind of insight, some wonderful insight, actually after your brain tumor was removed. Whatever it is, I’m very happy you are in a good place. Love to you and husband😘.
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Thanks so much, Marcia. Your comment rings true. It hadn’t occurred to me ad such, but I would agree. So nice that we are connected in this way. Keep well. The world is a better place with you in it. Hugs-Palp
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WOW. What a wonderful post. Keep on rolling!!!! Let's see some pix of your new house!
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I will☺️
Prayers for comfort 🙏
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I've been thinking about you lately
I know it has been along time since we chatted on here. But you were just a mental boost for me. So I'm here for you.
Prayers my friend

Chat chat chat away.
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How warm and kind, Gina. Thank you! I miss our chats. Stay healthy as ya can, ok? ❤️
Keep on rolling, happy to hear all your updates. New House, part-time work....YOU are an inspiration!!
All the Best fellow Canadian!!
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Still here — and presently in the clear

8 years of stage 4 serous elithelial ovarian cancer. 2 debulking surgeries (one in my frontal lobe). Two regimens of carbo/taxol. One series of stereotactic brain radiation. 

And just today, I decided I will have no more internal exams done by any doctor I don’t already know, and not unless indicated by imaging or symptoms. And I will give feedback for any doctor whose behaviour could use a little fine tuning in the sensitivity department.

Damn, that feels good! Now. Back to celebrating!

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Wow!!! Give 'em h*ll! And here's a hug for you...
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And one for you, too, Helen.
Wow, is it that long ago? I remember when there was a large group of us, writing furiously, supporting in a big way. Just might want to change your birth date though, unless you are 8😁😁😁???
I am so happy you are still that courageous warrior. You have been through hell. I'm happy you have the fight to stand up to those docs. Who might step over the line. You give us all a shake of courage. Be well and hope your summer is a whirlwind adventure.
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I kinda feel like life started anew 8 years ago... and don’t want to pit my real birth date in the aystem. Anyway, we are adventuring like crazy. Just back from a walking toir in the UK, a writing retreat in Toronto, and a week at a gorgeous cottage with friends. Now off to spend a couple weeks at my sister’s cottage. Wonderful sunmer! Sending love to you Louise.
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If you ever come back to Toronto, please let me know. Would like to buy you lunch or dinner, really. Sounds like you are doing so many enjoyable Summer activities. After all, it's a shortish season and this year more than others. Oh well, maybe warm Fall? Keep enjoying Palp, so glad you updated. I keep thinking, when am I to do this very same thing. Have to grease my fingers, massage my head and tap tap tap. KEEP ENJOYING.
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I would love to meet you.
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When summer calms down, we should exchange numbers and set up a lunch.
Every time I think about you, within a day or two, you post. I was in the shower (I know, it sounds odd, lol, but I do my best thinking in there) and I thought of you and where you may have travelled or hiked to, this summer. I'm always happy to see your posts. Enjoy the rest of the summer.😘
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Wow, so sweet, Marcia! How are you? I will have to post of this summer’s travels. It has been marvellous.
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I'm good, thanks. It was 7 years since dx last Wednesday. I let it pass with no fanfare, don't want to give ca any attention😒. Yes, please do when you get a chance, we'd love to see your adventures!
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Sooo... glad to hear that you are in the clear. I am still struggling with the recurrence however slight it may be because doctors don't seem to be running out of chemo options! I'll know my next chemo drug next week. Your good cheer is always infectious.
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I hope this next chemo works for you. It is hard knowing it is likely to come back again, isn’t it. Plan for thr worst, hopenfornthe best, and live in the present. Not easy. Hugs and love.
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Wonderful in all ways! Brava!
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Ya gotta be your own advocate!! Stand strong!
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You go girl !! Happy adventuring like crazy. Have an awesome time at your sister's cottage!!
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YAY!!!! Glad to hear from you!! Right on, to be in charge of your health. Docs with poor "bedside manner" are a "no-go."
Carol P.
That’s right. Take your power back. HAPPY BIRTHDAY 🎉🎂🎈🎁🎊
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Vital Info


July 10, 2011

Ontario, Canada

June 15, 1976

Cancer Info

Ovarian Cancer

June 28, 2011

Stage 4

over 6.1

Grade 3


The losses of my future and a good deal of my present.

You are as much about what you don't do as what you do.

You all do it. :)

Complementary therapies of massage, acupuncture, diet, meditation, yoga, tai chi, prayer, and naturopathic medicine.

supraclavicular (aka scalene) lymph nodes, both right and left; pelvic, abdominal lymph nodes; fallopian tube. Brain 2016. Para aortic lymph nodes 2018.

They all want my tissue.

The gift of your presence is especially important.

Seek out all possible solutions.

Accept all the love and support that comes your way and marvel.

November 23, 2011

April 11, 2012

Twice so far.

I found a lump in my neck above my collarbone, and I had been having shortness of breath when speaking and exercising. Also tightness of upper chest when exercising.

TBD, Feb 2016 - Brain

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